Have you ever seen people be completely calm in even the most difficult of situations and wondered what their secret was? There are some people who just seem able to keep a level head no matter what is going on around them, and it is these people who are the most healthy in mind and body because they don’t allow external influences to affect them. They keep grounded and peaceful and are therefore better able to come up with solutions to the problems facing them. If you would like to know how they can do this and use this calmness in your own life, here are some great tips.
Exercise is so important for a great many reasons, and the ability to keep calm no matter what (as far as possible, at least) is one of them. When you exercise your body releases endorphins, hormones which are known to improve the mood substantially. When you are feeling happy, you will also be calmer, and you won’t make any rash decisions. If you think of the times you have felt stressed and angry; you will know that it’s easy to say or do the wrong thing that you later regret. Exercise more and have more endorphins in your body and you will be able to think before you act, keeping you calm.
Life is busy and being busy all the time doesn’t always leave much time for being calm; it’s stress and anxiety for most of the time. This is where being mindful can help immensely. Being mindful means living in the moment and not worrying about what happened in the past or what is going to happen in the future because, for the most part, you cannot change it. There are many ways to practice mindfulness and finding your best path may take a little time, but will definitely be worth it.
Some people find that meditation works well for them, for example, even saying that this practice is like getting high for the first time. Others prefer a walk in nature, yoga, or doing something artistic such as painting. You simply need to find something that takes up your entire focus, even if it’s only for a little while. When you get back to ‘real life’ you will be much calmer for it.
True To Themselves
What is it that you love more than anything? What puts the biggest smile on your face? This is the path you need to follow, either as a career or as a hobby. Not doing what you love will lead to frustration and sadness; it could even be a cause of depression. Honoring your own truth and doing what makes you happy will reduce the frustration you might be feeling and help to keep you a calmer, happier person. It is true even if there are aspects of your life that you don’t like; as long as you find time to do whatever it is that makes you smile, you will still be able to be calm. In fact, this can help you deal with the less positive parts of your life because you will be better able to think about them and come up with a rational solution.
It may feel as though you simply have to be on the go at all times to get everything done and keep everyone happy, but this won’t help you to be calm and could even mean that your productivity and efficiency are reduced. Taking some time out to relax and unwind, whether that’s a vacation away from it all or an hour or two of doing nothing at home, will mean you can come back to work or life in general with a better attitude, and you’ll be refreshed. It means you will get your work done more easily, even if you have a little less time to do it. It’s a great way to remain calm because if you feel yourself boiling over or feel totally overwhelmed, you will be able to just step away. It doesn’t have to be for long, just enough time to re-set yourself and then you can continue calmly and more happily.
Trying to please everyone all the time means that you can end up feeling dissatisfied, not just because it means you find it hard to say no and are therefore busier than you should be, but also because you are not true to yourself. Every time you agree to do something that doesn’t fit with your true ideas and feelings, you are stopping yourself from doing something that you truly do believe in and want to do. The more honest you can be by saying no when you can’t take on any more work or when you don’t agree with what is being asked of you, the calmer and happier you will be in general.
Don’t Bottle It Up
It may seem strange to say, but the calmest people are the ones who can let all of their problems out. It could mean having a therapeutic cry or talking their issues through with someone, such as a friend or perhaps a professional therapist. What they won’t do is keep all their emotions bottled up. All that this does is increase the pressure within until it can’t be contained anymore, and then it turns to anger and bitterness. This is the opposite of being calm, so in order to keep a level head, letting emotions out when you need to is extremely important.
It’s tempting to look at what’s going wrong in your life and feel negative about it. However, it’s far better for your health, both mental and physical, to focus on the positive things that are happening and to express gratitude for them. Look for the good things that you have such as a home, food, family and friends, clothing, and more. Look at the good things around you such as fresh air, a sunrise or sunset, and nature. These are the things you can be grateful for, even if other things are going wrong. By expressing gratitude you will realize that it’s not so bad, and you will feel calmer.