The modern world of dating - The Smiling Heart

The modern world of dating

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The world is constantly evolving and with that comes changes in the way we live. The internet now plays a huge role into our lives; enabling us to stay effortlessly connected with others across the world. This has influenced many things; from the way we do business to the way we receive our news; but one of the aspects of life that has seen a big change is the world of dating. The traditional methods are fading away in favour of the modern online ones; and it is safe to say that online dating has now taken over how we meet people whether it is for love or the more casual quest for companionship.

To many dating sites

The first thing to acknowledge is that online dating has expanded too quickly as well as too widely. There are now many different sites that we can use to meet new potential partners. Looking for love and long term commitment? There are many sites for that. Fancy casual no strings attached sex? There are also many sites that will fulfil your desires; and the truth is that all those dating sites are widely populated, with their member base only expanding overtime.

The thing to note also is that it is not just men who are populating those sites; as women are also deciding that this is the right approach for them also. So what can you do? Just look around and find a site that suits your needs. If you want something serious then go with the traditional websites; but if you are more lustful then try casual adult dating sites. Basically go to the right place and you won’t be seen badly for asking the wrong questions; which will lead to less rejection.

But does it work?

Dating always comes with a chance that it might or might not work; that is just a universal rule about it. Even when using the traditional methods of meeting people in bars, clubs and other public places; there are as many chances of things going well than there are chances of things not working out. The only real difference with online dating is that you have access to a lot more people; so in theory this does increase your chances of success. Of course you have to go through the caveat of making an appealing dating profile to make sure people are interested in you; but that can be compared to how well you dressed and held yourself when using the older traditional methods of dating.

Just a numbers game?

Yes it does sound like you are playing a numbers game by contacting enough people that you will eventually get some interest; and to some this might sound a bit dehumanizing. But is it really different from approaching a dancefloor in a nightclub? Ultimately the way you search for love or lust depends on whether you prefer taking your time and use a qualitative approach rather than just jumping on every interested person. Some people just want someone now whilst others are happy to take their time to find the right one for them; and ultimately online dating allows you to have that choice. The best thing you can do is to know what you want and be yourself; that way you are more likely to find the person that is right for you. But if you just want to have fun and you’re not too picky then that’s fine too; just remember to stay honest and no one will get hurt; only good times ahead!