Tips for Avoiding Homesickness After a Move - The Smiling Heart

Tips for Avoiding Homesickness After a Move

You’ve been offered a fantastic job doing something you love for a much higher salary, and it’s like a dream come true. The only thing is, you have to move far away from where you are now to a whole new state, and that means leaving behind the familiar surroundings and the network of friends you now have to go to a place which is strange, and where you know no-one.

It’s not that you’d give up such a great opportunity, but it can be a bit scary contemplating a new start in a location so far from what you currently consider home. If you’re faced with the prospect of a move, for any reason, it doesn’t have to be as intimidating as you might imagine. Follow these tips to help you get settled into your new life.

Finding out about your new home

Getting to know the place you’re moving to will really help you to feel more at home once you’re living there. There will be huge amounts of information available online, telling you everything from the area’s history, wildlife, economics, and demographics, to all the entertainments, things to do, places to go, facilities, any ways in which the state legislation differs from where you live now, and anything else you might need to know. If you have a hobby or interest that you want to pursue when you move, find out about clubs and organizations in the area that you could join, and where all the facilities are to support your hobby. If you enjoy jet-skiing at the weekend, you’ll want to know about lakes in the region that are open for you to engage in your pastime, or if you’re a keen tennis player, where the best courts are. Make contact with relevant organizations, who will be only too happy to welcome new members and offer help and advice.

Making friends

If you follow a religion, find out about the nearest place of worship to your new home, and introduce yourself to the minister. Getting involved with your religious community is a good way to start mixing with people in your new location, and as you share a faith you’re likely to find some new friends this way.

Joining local clubs and organizations, as mentioned above, is also a good way of meeting people who share your interests, and these communities are usually very welcoming and supportive to newcomers. Getting to know your neighbors is always a good idea, because you never know when you might need to call on them. Of course, they won’t necessarily be people you’d want to be friends with as such, but being on good terms is always helpful when you live somewhere surrounded by other people.

If you’re extroverted, you can go around and introduce yourself, but if you’re an introvert that won’t be so easy. What you can do is always acknowledge anyone you see, who may be just as shy as you anyway. You might find you make some good friends in your building, and that always helps to make you feel as though you belong. You’ll most likely meet new people at work, too, and this is one of the ways you can get to know people and make friends quite quickly.

Everything’s strange, when you’re a stranger

If you’ve done your homework and found out about your new location, and you’ve made an effort to get involved in your home, work and/or religious communities, you’ll have made great strides in getting settled down and feeling like you’re at home. However, there will always be things you hadn’t thought of that crop up and throw you out of kilter. It could be something as simple as your grocery shopping, if the store you used to use in your old hometown doesn’t have an outlet near your new home, and you have to shop at a different store. These kinds of situations are inevitable, because you can’t transplant all the things you had become familiar with into a new location.

If you come up against anything new like this, take your time and try and think of it as an opportunity. Instead of rushing around the new store getting frustrated because you can’t find what you want, or because they don’t stock the brands you like, take it slowly and go up each aisle carefully, looking at everything and taking it all in. It might be annoying not to be able to rush in and grab what you need, but it won’t take long before you’ll be doing just that, and using a new store gives you a chance to try new products, which you might find you prefer!

For some items, you might not have a clue where to go or feel reluctant to try a new source, at least until you’ve become more familiar with everything else. For example, if you like to smoke a joint now and then, or you favor a particular blend of coffee beans that you can’t find. In these situations, mail order is the way to go, so you can get exactly what you want without any bother. You’ll need to check the legislation in your new state when it comes to purchases like marijuana, but if it’s permissible and you want to order some online, read more here about how to do it.

Staying in touch

You may have left your old friends and family behind, but they still love you and think about you. It’s easier than it’s ever been before to keep in touch, via phone, email, instant messaging and video link services such as Skype and Facetime. Even if you’re a long way away, people from your old home can still come and stay for a weekend now and then, and of course, if you have time off, you can pop back to see them too.

You may get the odd attack of homesickness now and then, but if you follow these tips on settling into a new location, you’ll soon find that your new home becomes simply home.